Frenemies: Our new age friends

Howdy,

Today I just remembered a classic quote by Gore Vidal.
 It goes something like this...." Whenever a friend succeds, a little something in me dies"..... As I go deeper in thought, I can dig one word from the depths of my mind to categorize these people FRENEMIES.....

The Merriam Webster dictionary describes frenemy as one who pretends to be a friend but is really an enemy. A frenemy unlike an enemy is not necessarily a bad person. Most of them are capable of being great friends, just not with us. The big question here is how do we know whether the person we are going around with is our true friend or a frenemy.  My own observation goes something like this..... Think of the person whom u wanna categorize as a friend or a frenemy..... Now answer the following questions with yes or no..

1. Do you feel tense when the person is around?
2. Are you always on ur toes instead of being relaxed and calm when the person is around?
3. Do you have a hard time being yourself when the person is around?
4. Are you in serious need of self-esteem booster around this person?

If the answers to above questions is yes, rest assured..... you have recogonized the frenemy in your life.
We do not make frenemies knowingly or by choice in life..... Most of the frenemies are either friends of friends or co-workers in workplace. Due to more intertwined relationships among people in workplaces and the ever increasing time people have to put in at the workplace, this is the place where u would have the maximum number of this speices called Frenemies.
A workplace frenemy is one who would be always competitive with you. This person would try to get in the last word or to one up everything you say. This also might be the person who would make fun of you behind your back but pretend to be real close with you when you are around. In fact this ass***e will always rub you the wrong way.

Anyways, enough of the descriptions and definitions...... The thing to think about is whether at all we should tolerate such people in social circles or at work????  Well... in social circles I can say with complete conviction that I whould definitely avoid mixing or be even seen around with such people. I would prefer being alone at a social gathering then mixing with such geezers.
The point to ponder is about the workplace..... How to deal with the frenemies there?  What is your take on this guys.....  What would you do? Will u put up with these people at work just to be in the league or would you just act professional for work related issues and put a fullstop to the relationship with tis frenemy when it comes to being close on a personal level?

My personal take on this is..... I give a damn whether the frenemy is at work or at a social gathering... I don't want any negative vibes around me so I will definitely stay away from this crazy specie......
Do lemme know your take on this.....

Experiments withTruth

Howdy...
I was just thinking about this thing we are taught as kids.... "Always Speak The Truth"...... All of us know phrases like "Liar Liar... Pants on Fire...." Teachings, Stories with this moral teaching and so on, all teach us the same words of wisdom. Sometimes I wonder,  if we have to read some one else's words of wisdom to become enlightened, Who the HELL enlightened those nuts who have written and taught all this.....

Anyways.... back to the point of experimenting with truth.... I have myself done some experiments with truth. I have also heard the same phrases and Wisdomilicious teachings about the power of truth. This power is really a force to reckon with Eh!!!!!  But then I choose to differ... I realised in due course of life that it is not a question of speaking the truth or lie but a question of the Real Motive or the "Real Agenda" behind what people say. I can give you so many examples but lemme quote some words of wisdom myself from the same oooooooolllldddddddd  stories which are aft quoted to us. This one is from the Panchtantra:

                     Speak with pleasure,
                     Speak with measure,
                     Speak with grammar's treasure,
                     not too much and with reflection;
                     deeds will follow words' direction.

Try telling the truth to your gf/wifey when asked " Does this dress make me look fat?"...... Believe me all ye people..... even if the truth is yes it does make u look fat like a cow and you blurt it out..... you will definitely be rewarded for your honesty and truthful nature...... Or try telling your bff that his/her new haircut makes him/her look like an alien just coming out of the movie Mars attacks and in a very short span of time, the only and only friend you will be left with would be your honesty and truthfulness as no human form will dare to venture near you..... probably someday even your dog will desert you and go to your neighbour......

Anyways... we all know the terms coined for such truthful people.... words like snitch, sneak, stoolie are the milder forms....... So for the love of god..... don't be a snitch...... Chillax!!!!! Life isn't about seeing things in black and white..... Everything shouldn't be classified as true or false..... Hey even we as humans are not completely good or bad.... We all have some shades of grey in our character then why is it expected that when we do speak.... everything shall be classified as truth or lie..... All that matters is the motive or the thought that goes behind every sentence we speak..... Now now now..... I am not trying to imply that we should go on speaking lies.... All I mean to say is that whatever we speak...whether a truth or a lie shouldn't have any malicious intent behind it. I believe that if someone speaks with a clear intention of not harming us in any way, we shouldn't crucify that person just for the fact that whatever was told to us was a lie....

In the end I just wanna say that speak what you wanna speak with pleasure but not with hatred or evil in your thoughts and its all that matters....... And that's the bottom line cuz StoneCold said so.........
Have u guys ever had any of ur own experiments with truth....???

Life: The big Question

Howdy..
Sometimes I think about life in general. Lots of questions cross my mind :like 5 years from now what wud I be doin.. what will happen tomorrow.... what about some crap thingie in the office..... the day gets over but the volley of questions keeps comin and comin.... And in fact quite often I don't have any answer to the questions.... I am not God almighty that I can predict what will happen at any futuristic point of time or that if I had done something in past differently, what difference would it have made today..... But still, I keep thinking everyday. I keep torturing my mind with these questions and my mind is always as clueless as a kid in a topless bar... Oh my Gosh....... will these questions ever end.... Hey hey hey..... this was another question...and as always I dont have the answer. Which brings me to the thought (which is really again a question) that is life all about questions..... The moment a kid is born... people bombard the kid with questions. The kid smiles and people get happy thinking that the kid is enjoying all this.... My perception.. the kid maybe thinks that if his/her teeth were longer enough, he might bite the shit out of the peole who torture him with questions..... So much for these questions... Eh!   We grow up and the list of questions grows longer... By this time we are wired in a way that if no one is asking us questions.... we do the honours of torturing our mind qith questions ourselves.....

I wonder when will these questions end..... Or is life all about questions and answers only?????? People say life is a quest... Some go in quest of truth, some for knowledge, wisdom, money.........  
But what is the point of these quests if we cant enjoy life..... Ah! Sometimes I just wish for a moment without questions without a bloody quest qithout seeking something.....  just wanna live in the moment..... Will the time ever come???????????????????????????????? EVER?????????????????????????


I dont know again........ Do u guys know?????????  If u do... just lemme know...... ;-)

Some Random Thoughts

Howdy..
During the entire length of the day, has it ever crossed your mind once.... "Why the hell am I stuck in this situation"? or "What he hell a I doing here"? or "Why does this s**t have to happen to me"?    Read all across the self help books and the motivational thingie doing the rounds in every bookshop, TV show etc. and they will tell you to look at the brighter side of things or to stay positive.  Do these arguements really satisfy you or is it that u get bored n tired like hell of arguing over this and then end up accepting the arguements without much ado. My viewpoint is quiet different. We get stuck in situations due to two reasons.... Either we do want to get stuck.... (believe me it happens), or we don't have the guts to fight it out of the situation. There is no positive or negative side to things. The only thing that matters is whether I can fight it out of a situation or not. If I can..... well nothing shud stop me..... and If I can't, there is no point thinking about it. Maybe it is better to let it go at the moment.......

So people, stop worrying about things u can't really change.

Welcome Note

Helooooo all ye Bored peeps

This is a small welcome note and a vote of thanks for taking some quality time out of your boring schedules to visit my blog. Today while sitting in a Board Room meeting in the office, I was wondering about a lot of things.... Hey hey hey....... have you guys ever wondered in the middle of a hardcore techno commercial discussion that if the speaker started doing cha cha cha..... along with the presentation, it would me more captivating. Or if a Pam Anderson dance vid starts playing in place of the latest marketing campaign video... it would be fun.

But hey...... all this isn't gonna happen.... We keep thinking of these things and yet keep getting bored.


Bye for now...